Friday, July 29, 2011

Now, That's Just Weird! {Day 7 - KY Intimacy Experiment and GIVEAWAY!}


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Boy, I've been putting off writing this post and now I have no choice - time is running out! You see, Day 7's subject can be a sticky one to write about, especially when your blog is family-centered. The subject is about fantasies. No, not like going to Disneyland (unless you dream of 'doing it' in Cinderella's Castle!)

Hubby and I have already had out talks in this department. Way back before Little Guy came along, we had plenty of time for some afternoon delight when the Oldest was in school. But that was a while ago. I mean, I know that my fantasies have changed over the years. Yeah, like now my fantasy is to have an entire hour of QUIET during the daytime, where no one asks me a single question, whines at me, or wants me to do something for them. Oh, and I don't want to hear them doing any of these things to each other, too. Isn't that the perfect fantasy?! OK, we're not talking about that kind, either. Anyway, I started thinking... "Maybe hubby's fantasies have changed, too?"

The KY Intimacy Experiment booklet has us doing a lot of school work for the daytime exercise. We had four assignments to write in our journal:
  • Describe your most erotically memorable experience
  • Describe your favorite or most recurring fantasy
  • Make a list of 10 things that turn you on
  • Make a list of 10 things that turn you off
After we were done, this was to become each of our sexual maps. What the heck is a "sexual map"? Well, according to the booklet, Dr. John Money, of Johns Hopkins University, created this term way back in 1980 to describe, "the sexual template expressed in every individual's erotic fantasies and practices." Pay special attention to the part about "individual" here. Creating an honest sexual map means that you must forget about all of those things that society or culture says are the right fantasies and turn-ons/-offs. This can be an incredibly hard thing for many people to do.

Without giving anything away, I can tell you that I have been with a group of women more than once when the subject has turned to fantasies. It usually starts off with a cute guy walking past us. After a couple of drinks, we'd all lost some inhibitions and cat-called, whistled, or something else to let him know we admired a certain body part. (Hey, I was in my early 20's and was using my new, "not underage to drink" ID!) Anyway, I clearly remember one conversation where we ended talking very frankly about fantasies. Or, I should say, the rest of the group was talking. I was trying very hard to sink into the booth. A particular fantasy of mine had come up. Every single one of the ladies I was with had nothing good to say about it. "Why would anyone like THAT?!" "Anyone who thinks about that while having sex needs to be locked up in a padded room!" I just kept sinking lower, hoping to disappear so no one would ask me my opinion. Now that I'm older and a little more... experienced, I know that my silly little fantasy wasn't all that out there. In fact, you see weirder stuff in Disney movies! (Not really, but the stuff is just as tame.) So, the moral of the story is: Society shouldn't rule your desires, dreams, fantasies, etc. Most of the time, what society says in the open isn't what they do at home, or in their heads!

So, hubby and I went through the four assignments separately, being completely honest, and then shared our "work". We were both surprised to see the lists. "I thought you liked that!" was his mantra. Thinking back, I guess I did - past tense - did. And some of the things on his list were things that I'd like to try - I thought that during those long afternoons way back when, he had shared all with me. Guess not. Hmm... It was very revealing and we really felt as if we knew each other better after this exercise. And we were really, really looking forward to our nighttime exercise. New material!

Our nighttime exercise was to start off with another game similar to "Two Truths and a Lie". In the twist on the old game, we were to take turns sharing one real fantasy and two that we had never even considered or really cared for. The one not sharing was to guess which was the real fantasy. Now, I'm not all that great at lying, so hubby was able to guess right pretty often. But he, on the other hand, can make up the most outrageous lie ever and make it sound like the truth and he can also tell the truth and make you believe he's lying. I was hit and miss with his fantasies the whole time. I thought I knew this man!

The good part of the whole thing was that, as we were playing this game, we were getting quite hot and bothered! It was pretty steamy by the time we finished the last round. And, without gagging you guys, I can only say that we had a lot of fun after the lights went down. <Insert Evil Grin Here>


Here is today's EXTRA ENTRY question!!!
For TWO MORE ENTRIES, answer this question below in a comment on this post: Have you shared a rather taboo or embarrassing fantasy of yours with your partner? (PLEASE don't tell it to me! LOL)
Answer the question in your first comment, then just type "Entry 2" in your second comment for two entries. Don't forget to leave your email in one of your comments.

You must have done the Mandatory entry on my original giveaway post HERE, in order to receive the extra entries on this post. I will add these entries to the original entries when I choose a winner.

This is open to US residents. YOU MUST BE 18 OR OVER TO ENTER! Giveaway will end on July 30, 2011, at 11:59 pm EST

*I received no monetary compensation for this giveaway, this blog post, or the blog posts that will follow. I did receive a K-Y Brands Intimacy Experiment package in order to fully participate in the program and tell you about it.

23 comments:

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My husband & I share everything...sometimes I laugh & tell him..'you could have kept that one to yourself!'...so yes, to answer your question, we have both shared our fantasies with each other!

I have really enjoyed this giveaway! It's been quite fun! Thanks!

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Entry #2
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Kindra said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Oh we share them but I'm a prude so that's as far as it goes...
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Entry#2
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Shanna said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I sure have! :)
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Shanna said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

entry #2!
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Smart Ass Sara said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I can't say that I have any bizarre fantasies or something taboo... but my husband has shared his with me. Which are all very weird and creepy so I've had to have the "no way in hell" talk with him!

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Entry #2
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Grammy Goodwill said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Yes, I shared a fantasy with my hubby, but he wasn't interested in doing it. sigh
(I know you said not to tell, but it was only skinny dipping in our own backyard pool in the dark!)

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Entry #2

Katie said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Yes, I do. My boyfriend isn't as forthcoming. I'll get him to tell eventually ;)

Katie said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Entry #2

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Martha said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

hubby knows my fantasies....but I can't get him to talk about his. (mavans@gmail.com)

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entry #2 (mavans@gmail.com)

Lisa said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Hubby and I share everything with each other... except fantasies. I don't have any. (I guess I am weird in that sense. lol)So, there isn't anything to share.

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entry 2
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leanne_mac said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

We don't share but I don't really have any so their's nothing to share.

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entry 2

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Momma Jorje said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Day 7 - Extra Entry #1

We've only been together for 3 years. So we've done the fantasy talks a bit, as ones have come to mind. We've even done what we could to fulfill them. (Some took some imagination.) I'm not sure if we'd come up with anything new, but it sure would be nice to fulfill more of them again!

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Day 7 - Extra Entry #2

Ronda said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

My husband and I ave shared many. We always have.

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Entry 2.

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