Sunday, July 10, 2011

You Want Me to WHAT?! {Day 1 - KY Intimacy Experiment and GIVEAWAY!}



To all the little kiddies under 18 out there:
This is not a post for you. Please hit the back button, close the page, or anything else that will get you away from this page!

Sincerely,
ME!
Yeah, yeah... I know... It's been a while since I said we were going to start this Intimacy Experiment, hasn't it? Well, I've just been too exhausted to type, OK? No, not all the good lovin', that's not why I'm tired. It's these little exercises that come before the "lovin'" part of the experiment!

You see, they have each of the 10 days of the experiment broken into two different exercises - one for day and one for night (yeah, that's the fun one!) Anyway, the daytime exercises are things that can usually be done by one person and, well, if you're participating in the Intimacy Experiment to get more intimate with your partner, you're going to have to have two people for the nighttime experiments!

So, Day 1's "daytime" experiment had me wondering if I was even going to want to follow through with all 10 days. Here's what they told me to do in the little booklet: CLEAN YOUR ROOM! Really? They must be kidding! I haven't had anyone tell me to clean my room since I was 14 and my mom finally just declared that I "... can live in a pigsty if you want to - I don't care anymore!" Now, I have to say that, after the initial teenage rebellion in me dissipated a little, I read on. Turns out to make a lot of sense to clean things up a little. They cited a study in which both men and women were hooked up to some brain-reading machine (yeah, I'm too lazy to look it up. Hey, I'm tired from cleaning my room!) They were... um, stimulated by their partners to orgasm. Seems that the findings of this study showed that women needed to rid themselves of all the little worries in their heads before they could just relax and enjoy, while the men were able to shut down those parts of their brains just about immediately. LOL - Doesn't take a neurologist to understand that one, does it?!
Pillow from Alexandra Ferguson on Etsy

The book went on to explain that this is why we tend to be able to have more fun in hotel rooms - no pile of laundry, no child-sized peanut butter hand prints on the light switch, no Matchbox cars to tip-toe around or accidentally go skateboarding on... In a hotel room, you don't have all of those little reminders of that never-ending list of things to do. You can make a huge mess, leave the towels on the bathroom floor, spill a little wine on the sheets, etc. without really caring. That's why you pay so much to stay there - they have people come and clean up after you.

So, I cleaned my room. It wasn't the most fun I ever had. But, it had to be done. It's the one room in the house that is 100% neglected because we just sleep there. It's the storage room for laundry, old toys, toys that need to be fixed, craft supplies... you name it. No one goes in there, you know, so I don't worry about how it looks. So, Little Guy and I went to town. Yeah, I had to let him help because he can't be trusted alone for more than 25 seconds (I know this because it takes 30 seconds to re-heat coffee in the microwave and he's always into something just before the "BEEP!") He really enjoyed pulling toys from the bottom of piles and playing avalanche. Yeah. Fun. But we got it looking pretty darn spiffy! We donated, fixed, filed, tossed out, and re-located just about everything. We put fresh sheets and blankets on the bed (after playing parachute with the flat sheet and then jumping on the bed for a while), we dusted, vacuumed, even scrubbed the kiddy hand prints from the walls and dusted the light fixture!

The Day 1 "nighttime" part was ready! After making sure we got the oldest set up to sleep at his friend's house (remember the psychological effect that walking in on us just might have!), and I put Little Guy down to sleep (after a very, very long walk in the evening - I wanted him exhausted!), I made my way to the room. Boy, was I surprised! Hubby had read the book, too, and saw the part about your bedroom being a "love nest." He had taken an old sheet and somehow affixed it to the ceiling so that it completely surrounded the bed. It was so cool! Once inside the enclosed bed, it was as if the world had disappeared! Plus, he has some music playing very quietly, and a patchouli/sandalwood candle (my favorite) burning. OK, now you can say, "Awww!"
Candle from Jen San Candles on Etsy

So, according to the little booklet, our nighttime activity was to simply "Enjoy the spoils of your labor." AKA - christen the newly-cleaned room! We took it slow and really enjoyed ourselves. It seems as if, as time went by, our lovemaking bacame one of those things that we just did as fast as possible. With the kids possibly waking up and interrupting and being just plain exhausted, it made sense. But, even when we had more time, the old habits came back. So, on Day 1, we took our time. We talked, hugged, kissed, and slowly progressed toward the sex part of the evening. It was really great! The music and candle helped and, I have to admit, looking around and NOT seeing all of those things I had to do really made me relax.

The next day, we both felt more loving toward each other, too. We seemed to have remembered that an occasional hug in the middle of the day for absolutely no reason means a lot.
This is the PRIZE!!!

Want Some More Entries?!
For 2 extra entries, tell me if you think that cleaning your room might help your sex life! Please leave the comments on this post and don't forget to leave a way for me to contact you in one of the comments. The first should be your answer to the question, the second should say something like "Entry #2" - I'm not going to make you write it all out again.

You must have done the Mandatory entry on my original giveaway post, HERE, in order to receive the extra entries on this post. I will add these entries to the original entries when I choose a winner.

This is open to US residents. YOU MUST BE 18 OR OVER TO ENTER! Giveaway will end on July 30, 2011, at 11:59 pm EST

*I received no monetary compensation for this giveaway, this blog post, or the blog posts that will follow. I did receive a K-Y Brands Intimacy Experiment package in order to fully participate in the program and tell you about it.

35 comments:

mrsweiss said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

your room sounds like it looked like mine lol so i think cleaning it would probably make it easier to relax, i can only hope it would help my sex life lol
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entry number 2
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Smart Ass Sara said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Um, hell yes. Mostly because matt's side of the room is full of shit. It's seriously Hoarders paradise and it makes me want to stab him sometimes. So I think if he cleaned up his side of the room, I'd feel less likely to stab him and more likely to do something nicer. :)

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Entry#2
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Martha said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

if our room was clean, I really thing it would make things better. I need to do that. but just haven't had the time... and won't for a few more days.

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entry #2 (mavans@gmail.com)

Lisa said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Our room, like yours was, has become a catch-all for everything in the house. A month or so ago, my husband and I took the time to organize things and clean it up. As funny as it is... I believe it did help! Who would have thought, right?

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Entry #2
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Dionna @ Code Name: Mama said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

#1 Um, I think if Tom cleaned our room it might make our sex life better - since I wouldn't be tired from cleaning it ;)

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Dionna @ Code Name: Mama said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

#2 :)

Erika said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

A cleaner room would definitely help. I'm always more in the mood when this is done. heehee #1

Erika said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

A cleaner room would definitely help. I'm always more in the mood when this is done. heehee #2

Dana West said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I absolutely think it would help to have a clean room. Ours is a little chaotic right now...I better start cleaning!
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Entry #2
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tlcrum06 said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

oops...I added my comments to the original post..sorry! However, I'll add again! If we actually cleaned the room we might find it much easier to get to & into the bed! There is always junk piled around our bed...socks, underwear, clothes..shoes! We might actually get to the bed quicker if it were cleaner!

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Entry #2
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kindra said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I dont think the room has to be spotless but less distracion most likely makes for smoother....um...coupling?
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entry #2
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NW Homesteader said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Oh you betcha!!! I am always thinking about what needs to be done. I also need a side order of cowbells for my kids necks to warn us when they are coming in the room :) That has been a surprise :O
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The NEW Mommiez Blend said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I think it's hot when men clean. Maybe it's because so many do it so little. I think if we cleaned it together it would be cool. I guess if worse can to worse I would do it for the sake of getting it on lol. A clean house does make me feel good so the answer is yes :)

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Entry #2.

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Katie said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Yes, I think a clean bedroom would make a difference. Clutter stresses me out and reminds me of all the things I need to get done.

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Entry #2

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LindaHnub said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I think it will possibly help. Our room's pretty clean, except for my clothes being unorganized.
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Shanna said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I absolutely think that the idea of the clean room taking out some of the stress makes sense! Ours is generally pretty clean(ish)...but that alone still doesn't mean we are making time for each other as we should!
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entry #2!
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Momma Jorje said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Day 1 - Extra Entry #1

Our bedroom is literally inside the front door and therefore in the living room. We clean most of the apartment at least once per week these days and hubby actually often does this while I'm out somewhere.

I totally get the point! I have been known to get stuck on a "I should be doing _____" sort of to do list in my head. So an un-cluttered environment is helpful.

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Day 1 - Extra Entry #2

A .price said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I dont think cleaning your room would
help but i get the point there saying physical activity right.


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ENTRY #2-I dont think cleaning your room would
help but i get the point there saying physical activity right.


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Heather said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

I think cleaning my room would help our sex life...ugh I have way too many clothes

Heather said... Best Blogger Tips[Reply to comment]Best Blogger Templates

Entry # 2